Looking after yourself
Looking after someone you love can be rewarding, but it can also be tiring and lonely. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish. It helps you keep going.
Take a break
Respite care means someone else looks after the person for a while, so you can rest. It can be:
- a volunteer or sitting service for a few hours
- a paid carer visiting at home, regularly or for a week while you go away
- a day centre, with activities and company
- a short stay in a care home
- friends and family taking turns
Even a few hours a week can make a real difference. A self-employed carer can be one way to arrange regular time off.
Get assessed
If you'd like the council to help pay for breaks, both of you need an assessment: a carer's assessment for you, and a care needs assessment for the person you look after. Even if you don't want council funding, an assessment can show which kind of break would suit best.
You're not on your own
Carers' groups and carers' centres offer advice, a chance to talk to people who understand, and sometimes training. Your council can tell you what's local. Carers UK and Carers Trust have information and online communities.
Check what money you might be entitled to, such as Carer's Allowance.
If you're struggling with your own health, or feeling low, talk to your GP. Tell them you're a carer.
In Scotland
Local carer centres can help with advice, emotional support, training and an Adult Carer Support Plan, and you don't need a referral. The council must consider whether you need short breaks when it makes your plan. The Time to Live fund, run through Shared Care Scotland, can help pay for breaks.
In Wales
The Short Breaks Scheme Wales, funded by the Welsh Government, offers funded short breaks for unpaid carers. You can search for local options and apply directly.